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Share This Article! Birth control is the first important step woman must take toward the goal of her freedom. It is the first step she must take to be man’s equal. It is the first step they must both take toward human emancipation. MARGARET SANGER Birth Control is such a broad and important topic, yet most people have zero clue on how any of it works. If you’re considering starting yourself on birth control or switching to a different method I’m bringing you all of the methods I could find, one article at a time (some aren’t even officially listed on many health sites). Before you start birth control, get yourself a few apps or calendars to keep up with your period, ovulation, and birth control method if applicable The Implant This is by far the most effective, it’s on average a 5 year treatment that you don’t have to deal with once it’s in place. It’s planted under the skin on your upper arm by a medical professional. The implant works in a very interesting way, hormones are released to prevent pregnancy in a 2 step process. The first way is through making the mucus on your cervix thicker, thus creating a glue trap effect for sperm as they make their way towards the egg. If the sperm can’t make its way to the egg, there’s no pregnancy. The second way shuts down the release of your egg, this is what happens during ovulation which is the most likely time you can get pregnant. So if something happens and the first step doesn’t stop the sperm from getting in, the second step makes sure there’s no reward for getting through. Even though there’s a five year window of effectiveness for the implant, you can remove it at any time in that window. STD/STI Prevention Currently, the implant doesn’t double as an STD/STI prevention so condoms are still suggested and regular testing of any partners or yourself. Effectiveness I have this listed first because it’s 99% effective. A lot of them are about that effectiveness, but, this also takes out the human error aspect of birth control. It’s in the skin until you get it removed. That means you can’t forget to take it or use it the wrong way. Human error is the biggest cause of unwanted pregnancy. Keep in mind it’s not 100% effective but it is the most effective. Interesting note about the implant, if you get it when you’re in the first 4-5 days of your period, it’s effective immediately. If you’re not of your period, or in the last day or two, you should use an alternative method of birth control (condoms) for about a week to insure that the implant has time to start working on implementing the hormones used to make it effective. Accessibility and Cost Birth Control is accessible in a majority of the world.It’s legal in the ENTIRE United States. There is no logical excuse for not using birth control. Religious reasons aren’t logical reasons, those are emotional. Health reasons are logical and I know some of you don’t want to deal with the hormone imbalance they can cause, but we can discuss that later. The implant is covered by most insurances as well as medicaid and other government health plans. You can get the implant at your OBGYN, General Physician, as well as Planned Parenthood. If you don’t have insurance, I highly suggest looking into your local health department or Planned Parenthood. Both offer options for every budget and often way lower prices than your standard doctor. The Implant has a steep price for insertion and removal if you’re going out of pocket and using a regular doctor’s office. Ranging from $0 (with insurance) to $3000, it can cost a good bit. Depending on the doctor you use, that could cover the cost of the exam and other screenings the doctor may do. Family planning medicaid (U.S.) is a great option that most people qualify for if you can’t afford insurance through a private company. Insertion The process is fairly painless, it’s mainly a sting from a needle to numb the area and then some soreness for a day or so after it’s implanted. Possible bruising in the area that it’s placed. Removal The process is the same to remove it as it is to insert it. Side Effects This is the part that people use as an excuse to not get birth control. It does take some time for the body to adjust to the hormones introduced to the body. For the most part, after the birth control is implanted in the arm, the biggest change is in your period. For most, there’s a time frame (6-12 months) that the body will have some spotting (light bloody or brown discharge)It’s rare but the spotting can last longer than that or your period could get longer and heavier for a while until your body gets adjusted. Overall, periods tend to get much lighter and more manageable or even stop completely (how nice would that be?) Of course there are other side effects that come with everything that happens: Headache Breast Pain Weight Gain Ovarian Cysts Possible infection at the implant site If you’re having severe or continuous side effects after a few months, please go talk to the doctor and see what’s happening or if you need a different birth control method. As I said above, the side effects aren’t all bad. Lighter periods, 33% of people don’t get a period at all after the implant is in place. Eased cramps and PMS. Sounds like the good outweigh the bad overall. When you stop using the implant, your body can immediately get pregnant so use the proper methods to prevent that if you’re not looking to start a family. All side effects are subjective and will depend on how your body handles the implant as well as your medical history. Other Benefits There isn’t a cocktail of hormones, just the progestin. There’s no estrogen to worry about so it’ll have little effect on your body. No one has to know you have it.You can really embrace the breeding kink you or your partner have. I said earlier, you can remove it at any time and proceed with trying to get pregnant if that’s your prerogative. Closing Thoughts I think this is the one method that every lady should look into and get if you don’t want to have an unwanted pregnancy. It’s safe, effective, and easy to manage. As we discuss other methods in the future, I hope you make the best choice for you and your lifestyle. In the coming articles, we will discuss condoms, pull and pray, abortion, vasectomies, IUDs, Pills, breastfeeding (yes there’s a method of birth control involving utilixing breastfeeding), and a few more that may go down a dark path but still are common in some parts of the world. I’m thinking of getting a vasectomy soI’ll be posting one on that soon based on my research and let you guys know the outcome of my decision. ‘ Reader Question: Do you have the implant? What are the pros and cons you’ve experienced? Comment below and show me how it affects real people and not just research through articles and papers. Don’t forget to check out the NSFW Spotlight to get yourself a bit of marketing for your adult content and if you’re not following me on social media yet, you should be. Go see Juniper Jenn for your Floggers and look for the Fambase Links posted daily through the social media platforms for Juniper Jenn, Miss Dori, and other wonderful creators. #SexEd #Implant #BirthControl #SexualHealth #Education #Articles

Public Play is one of those things that can go from ethical and fun to unethical and really gross quickly. Most members of the Kink Community probably remember the controversy of the two people that went into a grocery store in BDSM outfits/Gear and the sub was being led around on a leash. That’s not cool, consent is key and that crosses that boundary in a major way to the public. “Sex in social mammals is generally carried out in public, before the gazes of other members of the troop.” ― Jimmy Tudeski, Hollywood Girlfriend So let’s begin with explaining that you should always have these parameters in place.: It is discreet It is safe It is legal It’s not causing harm (physical or emotional) to anyone in the vicinity. You’re probably all anticipating the best toys to use and such, while that’s a part of it, Public Play is more than just a pair of vibrating panties with a remote. Let’s start with some of the lesser known or thought about ways to play. Non-Verbal Communication Imagine you’re being a bad sub and knocking things down and bratting out just because. You look at your Dom with a devilish grin and all they do is wipe the side of their nose. To the lady next to you cleaning up, it means not a thing. To you, it means that you’ve earned the paddle when you get home. The non-verbal cues and signals can go a long way in a dynamic when you’re bringing that dynamic to the public realm. You both can have signals to say what you need to without saying a thing. Wiping your left eye means you’re ready to go home. Pulling your right earlobe means turn my toy on. The signals can mean whatever you and your partner have decided. You can take this a little farther and add sexting while in public. Dropping dirty snapchats while you’re on a video call. Sending filthy descriptions of how you want your sir to eat your pussy until you flood their face. Telling your Mistress that she can use that new cane she’s been waiting on you to be ready for. The main point is the give and take of it all. Playing in public is so much more than the newest vibrator. It’s about keeping that power exchange going even if you’re surrounded by people. You’ve probably participated in public play in some way. Moving up a notch on the discretion scale let’s talk about: Verbal Communication Just beyond the non-verbal things you can do in public, are the discreet verbal cues you can have with your partner. I am only discussing discreet ways to play. I am personally not a fan of kink and dynamics being put in places they don’t belong. Verbally, you can always use honorifics. My partner calls me Mister everywhere we go. It doesn’t matter where we may be, live streams, grocery stores or even at a friend’s house. With that said, be smart about the honorifics you use while in public. Sir, Ma’am, Mister, Mistress, etc. Those to me are acceptable and most won’t bat an eye over any of those. What does cross the line is when you call your sub your “Little Cum Slut” while you’re out at Target in a crowded aisle.  There are extremes that the public doesn’t consent to. Now keep in mind, I’m not talking about events that are lifestyle centered. If you go to a leather show and want to parade your sub in their leather gear, that’s acceptable. Depending on the event of course. This is more for everyday things or Munches that are in regular establishments. I’m only giving you examples here. I know there are more and I hope that when the article hits the page and social media pages, you add more that the community can use. These are no way the only ways to play. Those are the more discreet ways to keep your dynamic going in public. Let’s move on to the next level of the scale. Clothing I don’t ever think it’s acceptable to go out in full leather gear, unless it’s a lifestyle event. I will repeat that a lot. Think what you wouldn’t look at with a second glance when in public. Clothing and gear can also be discreet. Here’s a few quick examples: A full dress with shibari rope harnesses up the legs and body. A simple choker style collar A bracelet that locks A day collar Side note: A day collar often looks like a necklace to the general public. The difference is the small locking clasp on the back. It must be unlocked to be put on or taken off. Chastity Devices See now the next time you see that cute girl stocking the groceries, you might stop and wonder, is she a submissive with her choker as a symbol or is she just making cute fashion choices? What are some of your discreet ways to wear your gear? Collars Day Collar Collars can be worn just about anywhere. Keep in mind we are going for discretion to keep it ethical. A Full Dog Collar with a tag that says “Master’s Whore” isn’t exactly discreet. A thin leather collar that matches your outfit is perfectly fine. A day collar is even better. It’s often used as the other collar in a dynamic. There are typically two types of collars: Play Collars – These are usually only brought out for a scene Permanent Collars – These are usually used at all times in some form. The Day collar may be used for when you’re in public, but there is a separate play collar. The collar could be featured as a permanent fixture like the metal ring collars you often see. The dynamic determines how these things work. Now let’s get to the parts you wanted to hear about the most Toys WeVibe Chorus Toys are the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to playing in public. I love playing with toys in public. These can be tons of fun especially if you don’t have a Kink dynamic but like to be adventurous, but, I hate to break it to you, you’re a bit of an exhibitionist and that makes you part of this community. Welcome and we love you. The most common thing people know about using toys in public is the lush or wevibe. They have some that aren’t app enabled but do have a wireless remote and I think that can be a good place to start. Most of these are very discreet and make very little noise when in use. The wevibe, lovense, and lush companies have made an amazing toy though. They have one that I love called the chorus. It goes inside to hit the G-Spot and The Clit (Yes Gentlemen, Both exist and are essential.) Using these toys in public is a blast. Your submissive is asking someone a question? See if they can keep their composure. Let them know that you can make them collapse at any moment. Watch their face get flush as you bring them to the edge of an orgasm and then turn it off. The vibrators extend to butt plugs too. They make an amazing tail that vibrates and I will let you know that it’s so powerful that the vibration is audible from inside. Combine these and you can make your partner fold like a lawn chair in a hurricane. I should have probably put these in the clothing and gear but I’m being lazy. Cock rings and chastity devices are tools of the trade as well. Imagine putting your partner in a cock cage and taking them to a strip club. Now you get to make the night fun and try your best to turn them on and make that cage tighter and tighter. You can read more about cock cages here. Now those are just the basic ways to play Let’s discuss the most important things about public play. The dont’s of public play. There are a few things that I think are absolutely inappropriate, but these are just my opinions. Wearing a butt plug tail with a skirt on. Wearing leather gear Pet play in public Anything that you wouldn’t be comfortable with a child seeing Pushing the line of abuse and kink. I want to rant more about this but at this point I’m tired. I will be posting an edit to this article that will go more into the dont’s and controversial aspects. I wanted you all to know the things that would be ok to try and the ways you can do it in an ethical way. I’ll be back with more soon Until then let me know some more ideas you have on how to play in public ethically in the comments below or on the facebook post when the article drops. Love, Mister #Kink #NSFW #BDSM #Education #LearnHow

Always remember how fragile your sub is. They may be strong , they may be capable, but it’s your care and affection that keep them going. This is why aftercare is so important. Take care of your sub so they can take care of you Anonymous So you’re still here? I had to take a little mental care time, thanks for waiting. I’m back now and I feel much better. Speaking of care, I’ve been asked by a lot of you to write about aftercare. If you’re here and don’t know what aftercare is, that’s ok. We’re still learning things as we go and I’m happy to teach. Today’s article is brought to you by Brat Butter. That will be discussed later, but if you haven’t gotten any yet, get on it. Aftercare may be another of the most important things to BDSM and Kink. I say may because not everyone does it and not everyone wants it. After care is essentially that process of caring for your sub or Dom (Yes, Doms can need aftercare too) after a play session. A play session can almost be a controlled trauma. It does things to the mind and body that we don’t experience without a traumatic moment happening. What comes with a trauma? Adrenaline, anxiety, adrenaline dump, in some cases we experience a rush of endorphins to help soothe the mind to block the negative experiences of a traumatic event. Play sessions aren’t much different than trauma. We go through a range of emotions, feelings and our senses can be overwhelmed. That’s half the fun right? After a play session, your body needs to recover and that is what after care does. It allows you to come back to reality, leave sub or Dom space, and adapt to understand what your body and mind experienced. When we think about a play session, we don’t think all of those things can happen to our body, but it does. We assume it’s just like having sex and when we get done, we roll over and go to sleep. Aftercare can be the difference between a sub or Dom processing something they loved, or not having a chance to let it sink in and rejecting it in the future. There are different ways that aftercare responsibility can be handled by the sub or the Dom. A sub, in most cases, has the most damaging experience in a play session. They can have impacts against their skin, they can bleed, bruise, and things can be injured, they can experience mental effects of the scenario. The things that come along with a play session aren’t limited to bad things of course. The sub can hit subspace. I have an article that covers that. They will still need to come down and get gripped back to reality outside of the Dom. Doms, especially newer ones, can also experience some of the negative effects of a play session. It’s mostly mental in their case, but physical effects happen too. It’s part of the sub’s responsibility to still assist when they can. Just because the play session is over, we don’t abandon our responsibility as a partner. There are essentially three ways aftercare can be applied: Physical Aftercare– Massages, Cuddles, and anything that can be done to ease the feelings on the skin are physical aftercare processes. Brat Butter and Spanking Salve (that’s coming soon) was designed for aftercare. The scent and texture of Brat Butter offers a calming effect that can help the skin recover and put the submissive at ease. Spanking Salve is designed with natural numbing products and can help with the sensitive skin that can come from deep impact play. Physical aftercare isn’t always just cuddles and massage though. Some submissives have been known to enjoy still serving their Dominant as a form of physical aftercare. These submissives can often go into a furniture mode (think a footstool for their Dominant as they relax on the couch). Just like all things kink, there is no wrong way as long as it follows the SSC model and everyone is aware of what is needed. Mental Aftercare – This can be talking, watching cartoons (works well for a little in subspace), or anything that can provide a mental comedown to the submissive. Mental aftercare can be as simple as getting them a snack or water after a session and giving them space. Aftercare can only be discussed with your partner, no one can tell you exactly what will work after things are done. I had a partner that thoroughly enjoyed being abused verbally and physically during a play session, it was tough for me because I knew she had a history of abusive relationships and severe PTSD from them. The mental aftercare was the most important to her. It was about bringing her out of those moments that happened and helping her come back to the reality that it wasn’t like that anymore. Conversation and a snack was the best way to serve her. As a Dom, that was difficult the first few times it happened, I didn’t want to trigger her or create a place where she felt unsafe. It wasn’t until we talked about it that we understood it was therapy for her essentially. She was replacing the negative violence in the past with the positive and subspace that came with the same impacts. The human mind is quite amazing and can create many new associations that can help resolve old feelings to become positive. Emotional Aftercare – Words of affirmation are a great way to help with the emotional aftercare. Hearing that you were a good girl, or that they are here if you need anything can be more powerful than anything. Emotional Aftercare is harder to define. We all have things that make us feel better after things that alter our mind-state happen to us. If you aren’t sure what works best for you or your partner, talk about it. If you’re not sure, experiment and go through the process together. Aftercare can be the make or break for BDSM. Some of us need it, some of us don’t want any bit of it. That’s why SSC and communication are still the most important things before, during, and after a play session. What kind of aftercare is important to you? How did you discover that it was the way you needed to come back down? Comment below, on the Facebook group or reach out any way that you can and I’ll add it to the article as a quote. Don’t forget to follow all of the social links here Until Next Time Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett #Education

Is your erection controlling your life? Has your boy toy been bad and need punishment? If either of those answers were yes, I’ve got the perfect option to handle either of those situations. I’m not going to lie, I’ve never seen more cocks in my life than when I’ve researched this article. It was quite a fascinating topic and one that took way too long to finish and for that, dear reader, I am sorry. I want to say thank you to the member of the community that suggested this as a topic. It is one that I wouldn’t have published for a while, simply because I never experienced it myself so it wasn’t on the forefront of my mind. So let’s knock out the information you need to make a decision on whether you or your partner needs a cock cage. The basic design of a cock cage The concept and purpose of a cock cage can vary depending on the reason you need one. If you’re a Dominant, a cock cage can be a great form of punishment for a sub that doesn’t know how to keep their hands to themselves or constantly has sex as a driving factor for the things they do. If you’re someone with a penis and it seems to keep getting in the way of your life, a cock cage could be the solution you need. From what I’ve gathered in my research, cock cages have 4 primary purposes: Prevents Masturbation Prevents Sexual Intercourse Prevents Gaining a Full Erection Punishment For A Submissive You may be wondering why you would want to limit those things for yourself or a partner. The explanations are rather simple on the surface, but, could indicate some issues on a deeper level psychologically Preventing Masturbation – Some people are hyper sexual and can not control their urges to feel a sexual release, while I don’t think there is anything wrong with getting sexual release, there is a time and place for it. Some people dart off to the bathroom at work to rub one out because they had a sexual thought that they couldn’t shake. Some folks will masturbate in a car in the middle of a parking lot. The lack of self-control is the major issue, but a cock cage can help break that vicious cycle and get that urge under control and released at the appropriate time. Preventing Sexual Intercourse – The reasons someone would want to limit sexual intercourse can range from saving the release for a special night to preventing a partner from cheating while on a night out. The serial cheater can be curbed with a cock cage for the most part. Of course that’s my opinion and not a fact. The build up of no sex can lead to a recovery of sex drive in some people and it can also do the opposite and contain an overly hyper sex drive. Prevents a Full Erection – This aspect can get into the psychological game of wanting what you can’t have. I suppose, all of these play on that in some form. Cock cages have been known to help with ED (Erectile Dysfunction) in some cases. you’ve limited the brain on what it can have so it begins to want it more. It won’t allow full erections but it will allow the blood flow to circulate in a way that you may have been struggling with. This isn’t medical advice, this is just something I’ve discovered in my research. Talk to a Doctor if you’re genuinely suffering from ED. There’s no need to be embarrassed, it happens to many men at any age. Some men also have an issue with erections happening at the inappropriate times. More reason to contain that monster you’ve got there. Punishment – This seems to be one of the more common reasons. We all know what edging is, if you don’t there’s an article coming soon about how to properly edge and the benefits of good edge play. A cock cage can be used as the ultimate tease. Imagine your Dom(me) teasing you relentlessly to the point that you could cum without being touched, doesn’t that punishment seem like it might be worth it? Be careful though, cum too quick after being free from the cage and you might get locked back inside. Some Dom(me)s use a cock cage as a form of CBT (Cock and Ball Torture). I can only imagine how uncomfortable a cock cage can get if you get overly stimulated and get a throbbing erection in one. Cock cages come in 3 main materials and each offer a benefit and a downside as most things in the BDSM world do. Metal Plastic Silicone Metal – The most common used by people starting into the world of male chastity devices. It is a bit heavy, but there is less likely to be irritation and complications which makes it ideal for beginners Plastic – A lightweight option, but, as I’ve read in a few interviews, can cause irritation and even pinch points. I read an interview about a guy that got a really stiff erection which opened the seam of the plastic just the smallest gap and as his erection subsided, it pinched the skin creating a brutal blood blister (Ouch)! Cheaper option, but can have downsides that outweigh the positives. Silicone – As with a majority of sex toys and devices there is a silicone option that is becoming more and more popular., it is also one of the newest concepts that most don’t know about yet. Sometimes more expensive, but, from what others say it is one of the more comfortable options. The only downside I’ve heard of is the lack of lubrication can cause skin irritation. As with all things I encourage you to do your own research outside of what you’re reading here. I am knowledgeable but I don’t know everything and I for sure don’t know your personal preferences. Cock Cages are something that needs a proper fit. It can’t be too snug or too loose. I suggest finding a sex toy retail place to speak to someone that can help you find the fit you need. Once again, DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED! We all have desires and I can assure you that you can’t say anything that the people working there haven’t heard or researched. The adult community is one of the most welcoming there is and you shouldn’t feel ashamed for what you are into or curious about, as long as it’s legal and not hurting anyone (that doesn’t want to be hurt of course). Before I let you read what actual users of cock cages have to say, I want to tell you something that amazed me about cock cages. There’s a good bit of options that implement other kinks into the devices. They make cock cages with a sounding bar attached, I’m going to try sounding one day and write about it. Can’t knock anything until you try it right? If you don’t know what sounding is….it’s hard to explain but it involves a rod (usually metal) inside the urethra. Doesn’t sound pleasant on the surface but I hear the orgasm is one of the best you can get outside of milking the prostate. They also make a sleeve version of a cock cage that has spikes on it. If you’re not a masochist, I think that is enough to deter an erection. See below and decide for yourself: They have also created one that has a butt plug attachment which could be an interesting sensation if you were to begin to get an erection. If properly placed, it would cause an uncomfortable yet pleasurable reaction. As you get an erection, the butt plug moves a bit stimulating the prostate, causing the erection to grow more and making a vicious cycle of erection discomfort and prostate stimulation. Here are some of the things actual users of cock cages have to say (None of these Answers Have been Altered): What was it like first wearing a cage? Frustrating. Exciting It was uncomfortable, but very arousing. weird humiliating, painful and uncomfortable Difficult to figure out, less convenient then I had thought. It wasn’t too easy to hide. Made me horny all the time A little annoying cuz I kept getting hard and couldn’t do anything about but it was also exciting What do you like most about it? The frustration. It acts as a constant base level of stimulation while effectively denying any further stimulation, making it much more efficient in creating a base horniness than “just” denial. The arousal The loss of control. the feeling of tightness. the anticipation of being unlocked, I’m a 59y old man and it works better than Viagra for me It decreased masturbation Not being able to feel, touch or play with your penis unless someone else unlocks you .It’s a process of denial and reward What do you like least about it? It really irritates the skin in my crotch, which starts to hurt a lot after a while. Didnt fit well The uncomfortable feeling around the balls .that I can’t sleep with it difficult to wash myself The part that wraps around my balls would make my balls ache awfully bad It’s still considered taboo Not being able to please my self when I feel What surprised you the most about wearing a cage? How invisible it is under normal clothing. How much I enjoyed it That through sufficient vibrations, one can still get an orgasm. that it is quite comfortable (except at night)the boost of erection and ejaculation volume after wearing it for a week straight (before I masturbated twice a day everyday) It’s difficult to put on How much control my penis had over my daily life and how the cage removed this How long I can actually wear it What were the benefits? Mainly that it did its job pretty well, keeping me horny all the time without any release. Makes you more excitable I felt hornier arousing sexual desire skyrocketed It decreased irritation and masturbation No longer think whit my penis .Play time is much more exciting and more rewarding What were the downsides? Well, skin irritations aside, the constant horniness sometimes made it kinda hard to focus on work and such. It wasn’t too bad, but made it harder for sure. Straining / soreness / too big or too small cage It was very difficult to pee, and was a bit uncomfortable. i can’t sleep with it some initial discomforts The age Sleeping and nighttime erections Waiting and knowing what time I was getting let out What was your first interaction with chastity? Bought a cage and tried it, lol .Porn / TV as a preteen I found out about female chastity before male, and then later found out how it was used in femdom. wearing my cock cage started a few years ago doing the sugardaddy thing (I’m a well off retired CEO, so got multiple 14yo girls on my payroll, which is the legal age of consent in my country), one of my youngest mistresses was not of legal age yet to have full intercourse, so she proposed this granddaughter play. basically she put a chastity device on my penis and a remote controlled buttplug in my anus (mind you, never been gay in my life, but a 11yo girl asking me made me extremely horny and said yes immediately), we simply went shopping all day as if we were grandfather and granddaughter to avoid suspicion in public, and I bought her expensive shoes since she knew about my foot fetish, meanwhile she turned on the buttplug from her phone when I helped her try on the shoes. in a few months she’ll be 14 and we’ll be able to finally have sex, in the meantime she keeps me looked the entire week and only unlocks me on saturday, and no sex but only a footjob. In porn wearing my cock cage heard about it on a podcast A punishment for not being able to edge What drew you to the kink/fetish in the first place? Transfer of power/control (as with so much in the bdsm realm). I find it really hot and exciting to not have control over my own orgasms. Porn The femdom aspect, and the loss of control over one of the most intimate parts. curiosity the idea of a tween girl controlling an old man orgasm Following locktober orgasm denial I wanted to try something new with my dom How long have you been practicing chastity? How did you get into it? Having a dom willing to try something new with me as said, girl couldn’t legally consent to sex due to age, so decided on chastity plus footjobs until she turns 14 By finding random bdsm related porn and articles. I was into (some forms of) pain and bondage before even knowing the proper terms for it – once I found out about bdsm as a whole, that’s when I got more into it. Seeing it in a porncuriosityPorn masturbation control What’s your favorite material for a cage? Metal tried both plastic and metal, both have their characteristics good or bad Plastic Hard to say. Probably quality plastic (specifically something like PA12/”nylon”). From my experience material and build quality are the most important factor, not material plastic metal Whats the longest you’ve been locked up? 4 days only one time due to covid restrictions in my region I couldn’t see the girl for 21 days, but she made up for it giving me a blowjob instead of a footjob 2 days in a row .About three days. After that, the skin irritation started getting bad enough that I sadly had to safeword and cancel. I’ve done months of non-caged denial, but haven’t been able to wear a cage for longer than three days. 2 days 24 hours 3 days week #BDSM #Education #Kink #NSFW

Threesomes call us to confront jealousy, insecurity, fear of rejection, and a host of of other dark seeds inside ourselves. Three-ways can be huge growth experiences that encourage us to drop our insecurities and discover how wholly lovable we really are Victoria Vantoch – The Threesome Handbook The Group Sex topic was fun to research and learn way more than I thought was possible, at least with this topic. Group Sex is by far the most desired fantasy by people of all kinds. I started listening to “Tell Me What You Want” by Justin Lehmiller and it really took me on a journey of knowledge that I didn’t expect. A lot of you answered in the survey, and there will be more in the future. I think with this genre of topics, being anonymous really helped all of you be much more honest. So I want to go over what I discovered with the results of the survey. The average number of partners for group sex was 4 The highest number of partners in one setting was reported to be 30 The structure that had the most positive experience was MFM The structure that had the most negative experience was FMF The favorite type of group sex was MFM or a scenario that involved more M than F There are many things that came from this survey. So it’s time to go over the biggest points and take aways from the survey before we discuss group sex in a little more detail. The positive experiences outweighed the negative by far. The most common mentions were Stimulation Overload, Fun, Mind Opening, Unlimited Pleasure (Giving and Receiving), and lengthier sessions compared to one on one sex. Let’s break these down a little more. Stimulation Overload Stimulation overload in this context is a good thing. You have more touches on your body and you don’t know where the next may be. You may be kissing one person and the other starts to kiss your thigh. You may be giving oral sex to a lady and her partner enters you from behind. You could be getting a sensual back massage and the other partner begins to rub your legs, the possibilities are endless when there’s more people to explore. If you’ve never been brought to orgasm from receiving oral sex, while you give oral sex to someone else, you’re missing out. Don’t forget that you can also add a little kink touch to it and overload the senses. Although I will say, I think if you were to combine Stimulation Overload with Sensory Deprivation you might die from pleasure. Fun This is the major reason that people have group sex, it’s just fun to do. I’ve found myself in a few scenarios that turned into group activities. Gentlemen, I highly suggest what they call a “Blowjob Sandwich”. I received one for my birthday a few years back and I think that should be the standard birthday gift for me forever. If you’re not in it to have fun or you’re not having fun even thinking about it, I wouldn’t suggest group sex of any kind. You learn so much about the people involved and also more about yourself and the things you enjoy. Fun should be the first reason you have group sex. Mind Opening Experience One of the participants in the survey, stated that it showed them that they were bi-curious. It was a MFM threesome and they learned that they like blowjobs from whomever is giving them out in the session. Another participant found her love for Double Penetration and now uses it in her standard sex session with her partner (they use toys to supplement if there’s not a third available). I feel what happens is we get in those situations and just relax our inhibitions to a degree that we don’t think about. Just keep your mind open and explore things based on how they feel to you rather than what you’ve been told to think about them. Unlimited Pleasure This goes hand in hand with Stimulation Overload. The possibilities are endless. You can give a blowjob and handjob at the same time. You can have your pussy licked while you finger your partner to an explosive orgasm. You can get your cock sucked while you make out with the guy you’re giving a handjob to. There are an infinite number of things that you can make happen. If you feel like you might experience a little premature ejaculation, you can switch up what you’re doing and let the next person slide in while you recover. I could go on and on, but I need your hands to keep scrolling and reading, not preoccupied with your fantasy I put in your head. You can masturbate later. Be creative then too, I won’t judge. Longer Lasting With more partners comes more time to recover and continue. You can jump out of the pile, grab some water, and jump right back in. It’s a team sport and should be treated as such. Take your time and learn about yourself. That one thing he just did for you? Have him teach the other person how it’s done. Slowly. You should be learning more about what you like every time you do anything sexual. Take breaks, Tag Out, Jump In. There’s no need to make this a quick affair. Those are just the most common positive things that stood out as reasons to enjoy group sex. With the good, comes the bad. There are negative aspects to group sex. Most of these could be solved with communication. The most common negative aspects were: Risk STI’s are a real thing. They aren’t all as scary as that post in your health class said, but they can suck. If you have an STI, it is your duty and responsibility to tell any and all partners involved with sex in your life. This is universal, not just for group sex. If you haven’t had an STI test, please go get one. There are free ones available just do a little google search. You also have the risk of pregnancy. I suggest birth control, condoms, and pulling out. Trifecta if you use them all together. There are risks beyond sexual health risks though, those are down below. Hygiene Please keep yourself clean, especially if you’re going to have sex with anyone. Take a shower before you go to the club or to the place where all the activities are taking place. Clip your fingernails and file the rough edges off. No one likes a scratch inside their vagina. There are tons of ways to make yourself a cleaner person and it is much appreciated especially in a sexual role. This isn’t universal to everyone but gentlemen, please keep the ball-fro trimmed and the boys shaved. Also take a little extra time to get your buttcrack and asshole clean. You never know what someone may open your mind to in the middle of sex. It’s just courtesy and good for your reputation. Uncoordinated Real life isn’t porn. Shit happens. You may touch someone you didn’t mean to or they may touch you by accident, it happens. People fall off the beds and couches. Bodies make noises. There are almost as many ways for group sex to go wrong as it can go right. Just enjoy the experience and go with the flow. Jealousy If you have any doubt about how you may feel about someone touching your partner, DO NOT HAVE GROUP SEX. Jealousy can kill a fun night and ruin relationships. You must be honest about your wants, needs, and expectations. I suggest starting with toys in the bedroom if you have reservations about how you may feel. If you’re insecure or jealous of a toy, you will melt down if you see your partner cumming while she rides someone that may or may not be a bit bigger than you. Selfishness Some people have used threesomes to justify fucking another person they’ve desired for a while, or the couple that is together may neglect the third that was invited over. Everyone gets a turn and life is good. Don’t be selfish. Attraction You may not always be attracted to the person involved, you should express that to your partner and go from there. If you can power through the lack of attraction and you want to help your partner have a great night, focus on your partner. I think you should avoid the situation completely though if it’s an issue you feel you need to address. Clean Up More Bodies = More Mess. That’s simple. So as you can see most of the negative aspects can be solved with a little communication. Communicate your desires, wants, needs, likes, and dislikes with your partner(s) before you even begin. Those are just some basics about group sex and the positive/negative aspects of it. I was going to break down the different types of group sex but that’s an infinite list. 3+ people is all it takes. Figure out what structure you like and talk to your partner about making it happen. If I can express a few important things about group sex and make them stick with you its this: -Communicate -Be aware of your feelings before you get in too far -Don’t have expectations. I posted a question in several different places the other day about Sex Ed and what you would want to see included. It was inspiring, I am drawing up the outline of a Sex Ed book and class. It will take some time and research but I would love to have it published and in your hands by next summer. If I can do it sooner, that would be better. Don’t forget to join the NEW subreddit You can go masturbate to your fantasy group session now. Until Next Time Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett #Education

What distinguishes a candle from other lights is that it appeals to our soul, not our eyes! Mehmet Murat İldan Wax play is one of the most intriguing ways to get started into the world of sensation play. I always want you to be safe and informed so we’re going to cover the preparation all the way to the clean up and aftercare. You can’t just grab your favorite Yankee Candle and go. Wax play has the potential to be very dangerous. Not just for the burnt skin aspect, but, the possibility of burning your house down is there. You are playing with fire after all. So I’m going to give you a list of things to have nearby and that will be necessary for wax play from beginning to end and then we can get to the details. Supplies you will need: First Aid Kit (This should be near any scene regardless of the tools used.) Burn Cream Drip Candles Water (Hydration and Fire Safety) Fire Extinguisher (Doesn’t have to be in the room, but close by in the event of a fire) Lotion or Massage Oil Razor ( Clear the hair off the areas, unless you’re a real masochist and look forward to the hair pulling out) Drop Cloth or Plastic Sheet (Wax can stain and is a pain in the ass to clean off of your sheets and bed) Those are the basics, there may be a few more that you can get and I’ll link those as they pop up. Now that we have the list set up, let’s cover the knowledge and safety of wax play. There are many different candles you can get: Soy Candles: The safest of the candles, The melt temp is low (130-135 °F / 54-57 °C) so it doesn’t burn the skin as easily but provides the results that you desire. Paraffin: A good beginner candle too, The melt temp is still pretty low (135 °F to 145 °F/ 57-62 °C). Beeswax: High melting temp (144-149 ℉ / 62-65 ℃) made for masochists or advanced wax play. This wax can easily burn the skin. Microcrystalline Wax: This is not recommended for anyone to use, but if you’re a masochist go for it I suppose. Severe Burns can take place. Extreme melting point (170-195 ℉ / 76-90 ℃) Candles with Stearin: Chemical added to candles to produce a harder candle and slower burn. Not recommended for wax play. High melt temp (170-195 ℉ / 76-90 ℃) Candles with color or scent: These can vary a lot. The dyes and fragrance increase the melting temps to all candles it’s in (hence the range of temps). Use caution. Make sure that you’re using the safest and most comfortable temps that you or your partner can handle. As I’ve said in most of my other articles, safety and communication are the key to the best scenes.So don’t forget your safeword and limits. I don’t feel like I need to explain the preparation to you. Here’s the quick rundown. Put Down dropcloth, massage partner with lotion or oil, use wax candles. What I will explain is the best and most safe way to use the candles. Pain tolerance is one thing, pain tolerance with heat is a separate entity . Just because someone likes a paddle and bruises, doesn’t mean they’re going to like the burn of hot wax. I can handle lots of heat myself, but hot water is something I can’t handle. Cooking oil, metal, ceramic, none of those bother me too much, but if you put me in a steamy shower I turn into a baby. With the understanding of personal preference, make sure that you test the sensation. Always test the candle on the inside of your wrist before playing (f you can’t take it yourself, you probably shouldn’t be doing it on your partner). Then, test it on your partner’s wrist. Keep in mind that wax cools as it falls through the air, use this for additional sensation of lower and higher temperature wax on the skin. As I said before, Pain tolerance is a very personal thing.so be considerate of what your and your partner are comfortable with. Dripping wax on your partner is just that, dripping. Don’t pool it up in a candle and dump it all out at once, this can cause some severe burns and a big mess too. The typical place to start with wax play is on the back side of the body. Let the candle wax be your paint and your partner’s body be the canvas to create your art. Move to different areas and don’t let it pool too much. Switch up the colors if you really feel artistic, just make sure to safely put out one candle before starting with another. The front of the body is safe to play with too. Find out different spots to drip to add some fun to your partner’s experience. The nipples can be a good place, as well as the inside of the elbow. the body is covered in erogenous zones. Wax dripping on the bottom of the feet can be an intense experience due to the sensitivity of that area. IMPORTANT NOTICE: WAX PLAY IS EXTERNAL. DO NOT DRIP WAX INSIDE YOUR PARTNER! Wax play should not be done to the face either. Don’t be stupid. Clean up is a bit complicated as far as removal from the skin goes, if you used a lotion or an oil as I mentioned before, clean up can be a breeze. a few tricks I’ve learned include: waxed dental floss to scrap it off, a cake decorating knife, or good old elbow grease in the shower with soap and water. Keep in mind that the wax will likely pull any and all hair it comes into contact with so either shave the play areas or the whole body before to prevent that, unless you’re adding it to the sensation, you sadist. This article was just to cover the very basic concept of Wax Play. I encourage you to educate yourself more and keep a look out for the advanced wax play article in the future Until Next Time, Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett #Education #Kink

I was quite the spoiled brat. I have quite a temper, obviously inherited from my father, and I became very good at ordering everyone around. I was the princess; the staff were absolutely terrified of me. Lisa Marie Presley There are pretty much three distinct “brat types” – Brats, SAMs, and Break Me’s. Brat’s are more playful and teasing to get what they want, while still accepting punishment for their actions (often not happy about it though). SAMs (Smart Ass Masochist) use their ability to push the envelope to get what they want (which is usually pain in some form). Break-me’s are the type that usually engage in CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) and push their Dom to the point of no control. From most of my research and understanding, because once again I have never claimed to be an expert or the most knowledgeable, brats feed from the dynamic of being able to get their way from their Dom, but act out whenever that doesn’t happen. Acting out often leads to punishment of some sort, the act of punishment doesn’t matter though, it’s the attention that the brat was craving and ended up getting in some form or another. Being a brat can be fun for any submissive and a total pain for some Doms. The most important aspect of this dynamic is for the Dom AND sub to figure out how to outsmart the other. SAMs are a whole different animal. They take bratting to the next level. It’s not done for attention. SAMs push the envelope for the impending pain that will come.. It’s a guarantee because they push their Dom until that point is reached and won’t stop until it comes to fruition. This dynamic can often be challenging to new or “fake” Doms. This is not your standard submissive that is excited and ready to serve you in every way you want. SAMs often get told they are “Topping From The Bottom” simply because they manipulate the dynamic to get what they wanted in the first place. This can be the situation, but, if your Dom knows exactly what is taking place, they can often outsmart and take the control back from a SAM. Break-Me’s take it a step farther and get the Dom in such a state that they forcefully (and consensually) take what is theirs. CNC is a topic I haven’t covered yet, but you can find plenty of articles about CNC with a brief search. The goal of a Break-Me is to gain control of the outcome by getting their Dom to lose control. Break-Me’s are extreme in their measures, oftentimes, and will do whatever they need to to get the Dom to absolutely snap. There’s a brief rundown of the three major (but not all) types of brats. The main reason for this article came from some interactions with a few groups online. I was in a voice chat the other day, and the brat was “unleashed”. The “brat” in question proceeded to be very disrespectful to the others of the chat (muting random members while they were speaking, kicking people out, interrupting them, etc). These members 1) were not her Dominant and 2) had not given consent to be involved in the behavior. That’s a big no-no in almost any Kink community. If being a brat is your kink that’s perfectly fine, just don’t drag me into it. If I want to participate I will let you know, but you still need my consent. Bratting in this manner is just being an asshole. Kink communities are beginning to shun brats and this type of behavior is why. I’m not telling you how to be a brat, but I am telling you that consent must still be given. I do want to point out that the brat on command trend is starting to feel like the fake disorders you see on various platforms now. Oftentimes, people that claim they have DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and then proceed to switch between the alters like turning on a switch. That’s not how that Mental Disorder works. That’s also not how being a brat works, while it can be a conscious decision, it’s still brought on behaviors that are outside of your control. Simply asking permission to brat in a chat isn’t how that works. Stop being an asshole and thinking it’s cute. I don’t expect every person to agree with this, but, I do expect every person to agree that consent is the most important part of Kink and any roles played. If you and your Dom have a Dom/brat dynamic, that’s awesome. I love that it is something you love to have in your dynamic. I personally do not like brats in my dynamics. I don’t indulge in the tantrums and try to “get your way” type of play. I see no need for it when you are perfectly capable of communicating what you want and seeing how that goes. If you want to be spanked, ask for it. If you want a certain toy to be used, ask for it. It may not always be a yes, but, at least you committed to communicating with your partner. I guess I just want to say, Don’t be an asshole to those that aren’t involved in your kink. It’s better to ask permission than forgiveness as well. I don’t have an issue with your kink and dynamic. I only have issues when you involve me without my consent. This isn’t to kinkshame anyone. I can respect your kinks. You can be a 100% disrespectful brat to your Dom whenever you want, if that’s how your dynamic works. I just ask that you do your best to be a good girl or good boy, whenever it’s involving people that aren’t in your dynamic. Courtesy doesn’t go out the window because you’re kinky. I just wanted to rant about that but also provide some information as well. Until Next Time, Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett

When I first tried a sensory deprivation, people thought I had lost my mind. In fact, I had found it. -Anonymous Sensory Deprivation is a personal favorite of mine. It allows the mind of the submissive to torture itself with anticipation and false sensations. The idea behind sensory deprivation is to….well to put it simply deprive the submissive of more than one sense, preferably ALL of the major senses. Let’s cover the ways that each sense can be manipulated to make a play session more intense. The obvious sense that people think of depriving is sight. We all think about using a blindfold or something to cover the eyes. There are more than a few ways to enjoy a sensory deprivation scene without blindfolding your submissive. Lighting illusions are a fun way to go. Different light colors, different areas of the room or the bed being highlighted by a spotlight (track lighting is great for this if you have it installed, otherwise you may have to get creative with the way you isolate the lighting. An underlight for the bed can create enough light for the Dom to see what’s necessary but the submissive could be deprived of essential light to allow the mind and eyes to process what’s happening around them. More traditional uses are sensory deprivation masks, I’m not a fan but that’s just the aesthetic aspect of it. I don’t personally enjoy leather and latex, but maybe I will someday. You can do some fun things with safety glasses to create a vision impairment. I know safety glasses aren’t sexy but they will do amazing things for the submissive. Scratch them with sandpaper or cover them with a frosted tape to allow the submissive to see the general shape of their surroundings. There is a way to create hallucinations but we aren’t getting into advanced subjects today. Master the basics first and then you can get a little more wild. Taste is one that I haven’t used very often, but doing research gave me some fantastic ideas and I’m going to pass them on to you. If you’re already taking away the sense of sight, the taste buds can go on overdrive. Take different flavors in the scene, some sweet, sour, bitter, savory, etc. you can even get some pungent flavors to bring punishment for the tastebuds. Mental games are the key to sensory deprivation working well. Switch flavors up, tell your submissive the flavor is something different than it is ( tell them the sour spray you’re about to use is actually sweet strawberry juice, etc). I find this to be super effective at creating a fake trust violation. I know that sounds bad but it will make the submissive wonder if the next flavor will actually be sweet like you say. As I always say, These things should be discussed before any scene takes place. Know your submissive’s allergies and dietary needs (Don’t give your vegan submissive bacon as a savory flavor.) If you can pinch off the nose you can alter the sense of taste as well. I will also point out that you can overload the senses. A few sour drops on the center of the tongue can be torture for someone who hates sour. Smell doesn’t get much attention but, most people don’t know that limiting the sense of smell can heighten the sensations felt against the skin and the flavor on the tongue. Hearing is a great way to create a better scene. You can find the right kind of background noise to make the submissive feel like they are on display in public, or think they are outside in the woods (good for a kidnapping roleplay). If you don’t want either of those, just use music: something they like if it’s a pleasure session, or something that could induce a bit of anxiety if it’s going to be a darker scene. You can also just use no sound at all, just silence and let your submissive anticipate what’s coming next with their own thoughts. Binaural beats are a thing and can hit the brain to create different sensations that aren’t controllable. There are many audio tracks that can alter a person’s speech or mental cognition. Touch is probably the most important of all of these. Everything pleasure or pain comes down to touch. If you have isolated all of the senses but touch, you can really play mind games with this. Telling someone what they are about to feel when they can’t see, smell, or taste can allow you to dictate what they will anticipate. I have personally made a submissive feel a burning hot sensation from an ice cold butter knife, they felt hot wax dripping on their body but it was lotion, these are just two examples but there is so much to what a person can feel based on what their mind tells them. You can create a few interesting spank sessions with numbing creams in some places, a barrier between the impact and the skin (latex, plastic wrap, etc) in other places. Just be sure to know your submissive’s allergies, health problems that could have issues with any of these ideas. Go get kinky and have fun with your scene partner. Look on Kinkslayer for a post to share some other ways to play with sensory deprivation. Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett #Kinkslayer #Kink #BDSM #Education #SensoryDeprivation

Roe v. Wade isn’t the end of your rights if you step back and take a look at it as a big picture. I’ve always avoided talking about political things, but this is huge for every woman in America. Let’s make something very clear, I am personally pro-choice. I hear women often tell me that “Your opinion doesn’t count because you’re a man.” I agree to a certain degree, but I am pro-choice because I don’t have a place to have an opinion of what happens with a pregnancy. I know that sounds bad, and some of you men that are reading this are probably up in arms, but hear me out on the whole thing before making that judgment. This is a touchy subject, so let’s stick to the big picture that I’m talking about, the rights aspect of the ruling. The reason I say that it isn’t as bad as everyone thinks is this: Making this a state or local issue allows a few options for everyone. If you’re pro-life, you can move to any state that you want that is pro-life. If you’re pro-choice, you have the same option. That’s just one option you have. The bigger and more important option you have is this, VOTE! If something is legal or illegal at a federal level, then that makes it pretty universal (there are exceptions, but that’s not the subject). With the decision changing to a state level, it means that your voice matters even more. All of my readers have just as valid of an opinion as the others do now. There is no electoral college at a state level, so your vote means that the popular vote is the one that wins. This is a chance for the American people to make it known what they decide is the right choice. I’m not happy about the choice the court made, but they allowed us to take it into our hands. The handmaid’s tale fantasy that conservatives are trying to make happen and the liberals will die fighting against, can only happen if we are passive. We are standing on the edge of many revolutions that could be happening in America in just a few short years. This is not the time to voice your opinion on social media only, but in the real world where we can all show the government that there are consequences for their shit decisions. So let me share a critical resource here: https://www.vote.org/polling-place-locator/ Find a place to vote. https://www.vote.org/am-i-registered-to-vote/ Check your registration status https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/ Register if you haven’t already https://www.vote.org/ Go here to see all of those and many more. We are now in control of the future in one more way. I think it’s time we bring America to 2022 and start making the world as wonderful as it should be. The next thing to do is get better sex education in the school system. There are too many people that have zero idea how basic sex and anatomy works. It’s scary when I see people claim that the vagina has compartments to store sperm and can release it days after sex (yes, that is a real tweet I’ve seen)I know that Kinkslayer focuses on the kinky and alternative aspects of sex education, but, it’s high time to move towards educating on all the basics as well.So please share this link, spread the word of a good source for sex education, and be a part of the Kinkslayer community. I’m always open to posting articles from followers and growing together. I want to have a representation of all aspects so your political alignment isn’t a factor; share your stories, opinions, and views. How do you feel about the Supreme Court’s ruling? Leave a comment Make sure you follow me on all of my social media: linktr.ee/kinkslayer Let’s revolutionize Sex Education together #Opinion #ProLife #Political #ProChoice #Education #Articles

First Date Adventures To Be Had Picnics – Have a picnic, discuss foods you’d like to try and make it a picnic of things you’ve never had before. Be adventurous from day one. The next idea is the best way to get to the picnic location. Go for a walk – You don’t have to do fancy things to have a great time! It’s nice to switch up things sometimes. Dinner and a movie are a dead concept. Dates like this are often a way to open things up to long conversations that can lead to losing track of time and enjoying yourself more than you thought so. As tempting as it may be, do not bring up your ex’s or past relationship. Enjoy the time you have and let it build to something naturally with no hiccups from the first date. This date idea doesn’t have to be a nature walk, it can be a downtown walk in a cute movie type town.Watch an outdoor movie Volunteer – This is one of the most unique ways to bond and also grow your resume, animal shelters offer a chance for volunteers to walk the dogs, soup kitchens are always willing to take on people to help serve the community, you can find tons of places to volunteer around you, Breakfast Date – Switch it up and set up a date for breakfast and coffee. It is a bit of a gamble. If it goes better than you could have imagined, you will be living the high life all day! If it goes badly, it could throw your day off a little. I experienced that one. If you know me, I don’t enjoy early mornings. I got up for a date at 6:30am and met a girl. After breakfast she never spoek to me again. I thought it went well, but I guess not. Visit a psychic – Everybody likes to know the future, well, at least a prediction of it! Imagine the psychic seeing you getting married! Play video games – Playstation, Nintendo, Xbox, it doesn’t matter. If your date is into video games and you’ve got strong thumbs, it might be time for a bit of virtual smackdown! Just be careful not to beat your date too badly at whatever video game you decide to play. You don’t want your first date ideas to turn into video-game-inspired revenge ideas. Go to a bookstore – Let your date know before you meet up, at the end of the date you will buy a book for the other if it went well. Not something you believe they will love, but, something you love and will let them get to know you on a deeper level before the second date. First Date Etiquette Don’t be late.. No one likes to spend their time waiting and being late is simply disrespectful. Give yourself enough time to prepare and try to arrive at the location 10-15 mins earlier. If you are running late, make sure you give your date a call or text so they can go to a cafe or find somewhere to sit while waiting for you. Don’t get over-dressed. I know how that feel, you want to look perfect for your date and try very hard to dress up to impress them. However, it’s best to dress according to the event you are going to. Imagine if you are going for picnic and you are in a suit or high heels, that would be super awkward for both of you. I am pretty sure you won’t impress him/her for this. Don’t talk about past relationships. Either asking or talking about them are a big “NO-NO”. This is something very personal to ask on a first date because you are not sure whether your date is comfortable to talk about it. Talking about your ex might also leave your date an impression that you still haven’t moved on yet. Don’t get too drunk. If you can’t control yourself when you are drunk, I am pretty sure you know what to do. Also, it’s always nice to keep a sharp mind to remember all the things that happened on your first dates so you can start to build on memories and topics to talk about on your next date. DO offer to split the bill. If you are a guy and you feel comfortable to pay the bill, that’s very nice of you. But for ladies, don’t just sit there and expect people to pay for your meal, it’s always nice to offer help on the bill! It shows that you are a friendly and considerable person. Of course, if the one of you insists on paying, just let them do the job and don’t argue over it. Don’t focus on talking about yourself. Who doesn’t love to be understood? Dates are supposed to be chances for you to know more about each other before getting into a relationship. If you can’t help to ramble about yourself, you will leave an impression of you not interested in your dates. Always remember it’s not a stand-up comedy. Try to ask your dates about their interests, jobs and hobbies, nothing too serious and personal! #Dating #Education #FirstDate #Tips

Sex toys have long since graduated from the floppy rubber things you hide in your bedside table to beautiful works of interactive art Gwyneth Paltrow prehistoric dildos Sex toys in today’s world are in almost every home, if you count pervertables they’re in every home in the world. These fancy and extremely advanced sex toys still have something in common with the first sex toys ever produced, the shape and purpose. Archeologist Petra Kieselbach discovered what is currently the oldest dildo in the existence of the human s[ecies. Dating to 29,000 B.C. a dildo made of siltstone was discovered in what is modern southwest Germany. I guess they were made better back then too, I can’t seem to get one to last more than a year or so, time to learn how to sculpt siltstone I suppose. The act of intercourse dates back to the first creatures that produced sexually not asexually. With that said, the pleasure that sex brings has now been dated back at least that far. Humans have always had a need for pleasure and sex to go hand in hand. We are one of the few animals on earth that has sex for pleasure. Not only have we evolved sex to be for purely pleasure at times, we have perfected the way to have orgasms on our own. We use toys and other objects for masturbation and also have learned how to use tools to enhance our muscles needed for pleasurable sex and stronger orgasm. Not everyone knows what “Ben Wa Balls” are, and I don’t think very many people know what they were originally used for. The earliest known use of the Ben Wa Balls, known as Rin No Tama at the time, dates back to 500 BC. Crafted in Japan, they were made to be used as a single ball and made to enhance the male’s pleasure during intercourse. Though they are used now to help women strengthen the the pelvic floor muscles through kegel exercises while inserted, the Japanese designed these to be used like anal beads to stimulate the prostate of a man while he had sex. They would remain a secret of the eastern world until the 1500’s when they would make their debut in the west for the same purpose. Let’s keep our time journey going to 300 BC. The Greek merchants sold what they called the olibos, a word that means glide or slip. These leather coated stone Dildos were produced and distributed from what is modern day Turkey. If you read ancient texts, you can find a mention of a ram that no man has sold by a cobbler that can not be rivaled with his kind disposition towards women. Ram’s that would be worthy of Athena and bring you to be able to see her hand. Sounds like a good time to me. In the 1400’s, the Italians would take the concept of the olisbos and create the first model of a modern dildo, the diletto. If you’re so inclined to learn about the creation of written porn (erotica) check out Pietro Aretino’s Dialogues. While I haven’t personally read them (yet), Aretino is said to be the “Father of erotica and pornography”. The Italian’s also learned that various oils could be used as lubrication. They mainly used Olive oil. Makes you wonder if that’s how we originally got the terms virgin for our olive oil…. In the late 1500’s, a story was written about a prostitute that isn’t satisfied by her lover and ends up using a dildo to finish the job. This is the first documented mention of glass dildos. The Choosing of the Valentines was written in the late 1500’s but not published for 300 years and only for collectors of pornography at that time. The poem is long if you want to attempt to read a small part of it, go ahead: Pardon sweete flower of matchless Poetrie, And fairest bud the red rose euer bare ; Although my Muse deuor’st from deeper care Presents thee with a wanton Elegie. Ne blame my verse of loose unchastitie For painting forth the things that hidden are, Since all men acte what I in speache declare, Onelie induced by varietie. Complaints and praises euerie one can write, And passion-out their pangu’s in statelie rimes, But of loues pleasure’s none did euer write That hath succeeded in theis latter times. You can find the full version here Advances in technology didn’t just stop with infrastructure and industry, in 1734 the French invented the first vibrator, le tremoussoir. It was the first device to treat women for hysteria. The history of hysteria is a topic for another day, but, essentially doctor’s would bring women to orgasm because they were suffering from the debilitating disease known as hysteria. It’s a crazy thought that you could go to the doctor to use a vibrator. You had to if you wanted to, unless you were wealthy as they were very expensive and they were mostly bought by Doctors for their practices. Hysteria Cure Ad The late 18th century brought the birth of BDSM. If you like BDSM, whips, floggers, and such you can thank Marquis de Sade (Sade is credited for the term sadism, put in the dictionary in 1834, hence the similar letters at the beginning). So thanks to De Sade, you can enjoy Kinkslayer today. Let’s hit some quick major points in sex toy history real quick: 1844 – Charles Goodyear invents the modern condom and other sex toys from vulcanized rubber 1869 – Dr. George Taylor invents the crank device that the Sybian is modeled after. Patients would sit on the device to receive the vibrations to help cure, you guessed it, hysteria. 1890’s – Motion pictures are created, some of the first things filmed were women using dildos and massagers Estimated Date 1906 1900 – The Chattanooga vibrator becomes the 5th appliance to be electrified. A decade before vacuums or irons. 1917 – KY Jelly is invented for Doctors to use during pelvic exams. 1930 – The first latex based sex toys are invented. 1952 – The AMA declares hysteria isn’t a real ailment 1960 – The Birth Control pill is FDA approved, sparking the sexual revolution By the time the 1970’s rolled around, sexuality was becoming more accepted. It was so accepted that the famous Betty Dodson started hosting masturbation workshops to show women how to properly use vibrators and give themselves a proper orgasm. The 1970’s is full of sexual history, I will be writing something soon purely about the history of the sexual revolution and its evolution in the 1970’s. Near the end of the 70’s, 1977 to be exact, the first adult store opened. Good Vibrations was specifically for vibrators but it paved the way for places like Night Secrets and Juniper Jenn to be possible. In the late 90’s sex toys became more mainstream thanks to Sex and The City. Carrie and the girls paved the way by showing off their rabbits, glass dildos, magic wands, and much more. Thanks girls. As much progress as we have made through history, we still haven’t been free for very long. In 2003 the Lawrence v. Texas court case lifts the ban on sex toys. Some of my readers were born when this case decision was made. Some of you may have been the result of the ban being lifted. Don’t be weird, your parents were probably kinky…Can you say Key Parties? We should plan one huh? Kinkslayer Key Party Anyone? Modern sex toys are really fancy and keep evolving, we’ve only had bluetooth technology for sex toys since 2010. The cam girls are grateful for this, tip controlled vibrators are amazing and super profitable. The sex toy industry is growing rapidly and is expected to worth roughly 52 Billion Dollars in the next 5 years. We are on the edge of another sexual revolution in this world. I’m excited to be on the forefront of it and growing with it. Be proud of yourself and embrace your sexuality. Start that cam gig, promote your Onlyfans or Fansly on the Kinkslayer NSFW Spotlight, sell your feet pics, Make a premium Snapchat. Do your thing and don’t worry about who judges you. If you need some accessories for your OnlyFans go see Juniper Jenn. I hope you’ve enjoyed the first installment of Sex History and as always make sure tojoin the group on Facebook Until Next Time, Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett #Education

So let’s talk about the scariest part of sex for most people. BUTT STUFF! A lot of women don’t want to try it because they think it’s going to be super painful, or they will develop a prolapse. That is very unlikely on either part if it’s done right. Men are afraid to let their lady touch their asshole simply because they are worried the boys will find out and think they are gay. I hate that logic so much. Let’s address those insecure boys for a minute: 1) Letting a girl play with your ass doesn’t make you gay by definition. 2) If you are Gay or Bi, there’s nothing wrong with that at all so stop treating it like it’s a disease. 3) You might be shocked to learn about this thing called a prostate and how it’ll make you fall in love if someone stimulates it. 4) Just stop being close minded. Sex is about fun and exploration of the body. If you try something and don’t like it, don’t do it again. Now back to what we were discussing in the title. Butt Stuff, Anal Sex, The Forbidden Rabbit Hole, it doesn’t matter what you call it as long as you know what to do if you want to make it a part of your sex life. A few items you Will need to get started: A water based lube (not the $.88 lube from walmart I learned that lesson so you don’t have to) A towel or something to place your toys and other items on to keep the bed clean Patience Time A partner you trust A few fun toys Got your supplies? Awesome, let’s begin the lesson. First off, it’s going to take some time the first few times to get used to it and get warmed up. It’ll get easier and more natural to you as the sessions go on. Make sure to give your partner, the one that is going to receive the penetration, a massage in a place called the sacrum, it’s the spot on the back above the butt crack where the tailbone ends. The sacral massage helps relax the entire pelvic area. It’s where the nerves leave the spine to give or receive sensation to the pelvic region. A good massage never hurts before sex any way but this one has an extra benefit. Regardless of how you’re going to go at it, take time to stimulate the out parts of the actual asshole. There’s no pretty words for asshole so we’re just going to use that one. Make sure you’re lubed up if it’s your finger, toy, or anything else you may be using. As you massage the outside and the edges, you’ll feel the asshole relax some, that’s a good moment to try to enter just a bit. The pinky is by far the best to start with. It’s the smallest of the fingers and you can work with it a lot better than toys or bigger fingers. Repeat the process, massage inward just a bit until you feel more relaxation. Your partner will be communicating what they feel, I promise. This is a great time to start stimulation somewhere else, have your partner masturbate or use a toy they like. The idea behind that is to over stimulate the sacrum and get all of the pelvic muscles to begin to relax. I think you can start to figure out how this works by now, patience and baby steps. Some things that I consider to be vital to know though, toys can get lost in the ass. It can be prevented. Never forget this motto: “If you play without a base, it can be gone without a trace.” If you’re going to be using any toys in your adventures with anal, make sure they have a base. Think the balls on a dildo or the flange on a butt plug. These fanned out shapes keep the toys from disappearing and giving you an embarrassing hospital trip. I’m all for good stories, but that would just be a dumb one. If you’re curious, explore when you masturbate. You know your body and can learn exactly what to tell someone if they’re going to do anything anal with you. Look into butt plug training kits. They start small and get bigger, you can work on your tolerance and ability to take something in your ass even when you’re not having sex. That is probably the easiest way to train yourself to be able to handle it. Anal activities shouldn’t be painful. Your ass is full of nerves that can be stimulated. If done right it can become a second clit ladies, not that good but really close to it. Like I said earlier guys, you have a prostate. Enjoy it and learn how to take advantage of it. Don’t forget my story in the true stories section, shit happens and you’ve got to be able to laugh it off and enjoy all of the good and bad things that will inevitably happen. Until Next Time Peace Out sub Scouts Love, Jett #Education